Father Time

Trent Ernst, Editor

Last week, we talked about doing stuff for Father’s Day, rather than buying stuff.

Can I let you in on a little secret? It is simply this: time.

Maybe I’m the odd dad out here, but my favourite times with the kids and the family is, well, all of it.

The time we spend together is an investment in each other. Sure, we could invest our money and our talents, but for me, it’s time with my family that is most important.

My eldest daughter has become a lover of books, and so, as much as possible, I spend time with her, either reading a book (right now we’re working through David Eddings’ Belgariad series), or listening to books from Audible.

And just yesterday, my youngest daughter uttered one of the sweetest things I’ve ever heard. “Father,” she said, and yes, she calls me father and not dad or daddy. “Yes daughter?” I replied, as if we are addressing people by relational titles, I shall do the same back to her, though in much the same way’s Wesley’s “As you wish,” was really him saying “I love you,” the title is an affectionate affectation. “When are we going hiking again?” she said.

Be still my beating heart.

Okay, so I’ll admit, that I am a hiker, and sharing something that I love with my kids is something special. But it’s the time that’s more important than the activity. Indeed, just the other day found us playing Barbies together. Well, Monster High.

The trouble is, even here in Tumbler Ridge, it’s easy to become overbusy. Overtaxed. Time is important simply because we have so little of it. And so it becomes the currency of our concern. Where our time is, there our hearts will be also.

Or maybe, our free time. For if it were simply time, my first two concerns would be work and sleep.

But those few hours when I’m not working? Not sleeping? I try and spend as much of it with the kids and the wife. And generally fail miserably. Because I need to spend at least a few hours a week putting in some exercise. And then the kids have soccer or drama practice or Junior Rangers and by the time they get home it’s time to get ready for bed…

But there are a few precious hours every week where we can get together, either as a group or in pairs and spend some time together, listening to books, going for walks, going to fly kites at the school.

And it is in these moments that memories are built. That the things that are truly important are discovered. Where we become family.

So this Father’s day, take some time to take some time. Spend your free time freely with your family. Doing something? Sure, if that’s what gets you together. But what you do is far less important than who you do it with.