It isn’t that I don’t like romance. I love it. Hopeless romantic right here! But I like my romance to be a bit more spontaneous, opposed to having society dictate a specific day on which it MUST occur.
Which leads to this; who needs that kind of pressure? Goodness knows the media has shown the kind of crazy that goes down when someone forgets to buy flowers or a sparkly gift. This is usually followed by some kind of guilt resulting in a tremendous need to rectify the situation in an even bigger fashion.
Not to say I’m 100% anti-Valentine’s Day. If my significant other wants to do something special, I’m not against it. I might even be the one who decides to do something special. I just don’t want to be bound by societal pressure to go all out on a day that is essentially one big marketing scheme.
I recently read somewhere (wait, I think it was in this very newspaper…-ed) that if you’re single you shouldn’t hole up alone in your house because it’s a guarantee that you will end up depressed. The same article also said that if your girl said she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day that you should ignore her because she is obviously calling your bluff. These both make me angry.
Number one; this year I am single, and I am absolutely planning on binge eating junk food and playing video games by myself. I am going to be doing things that bring me joy. Self-love is just as important, if not more, than other kinds of love (or like, in the event that you aren’t quite there yet in your relationship).
Number two; don’t assume that all women are playing games. And if you are a woman who says this without meaning it, just stop. Games don’t do anyone any good. All they do is cause miscommunication that didn’t need to be there in first place. This could segue into a whole other rant, so to keep it brief, be honest and open. You’ll be happier for it.
Don’t let this one day get you down, or fill you with anxiety. If you’re single, it really is just another day, but feel free to spoil yourself if the desire strikes you. If you’re in a relationship, talk to your partner and make sure you are both clear with your expectations.
There’s no wrong way to celebrate or not celebrate.